3 Lessons from My KonMari Journey: You Don’t Have to Do It Alone

I used to think I needed to figure it all out myself. That if I couldn’t maintain a “showflat-worthy” space, I’d somehow failed as a woman, a wife, and a mum.

But the truth is, I was overwhelmed. My ADHD hijacked my organisational muscle.

The mental clutter.

The emotional resistance.

The invisible weight of trying to hold it all together.

The voice that said, “You should know better.”

This time, I chose different. With my 2025 resolution to have "light, spaciousness and fun", I sought help - from a fellow CEOBabe and certified KonMari consultant, Jinda from Tidy with Jinda.

And guess what?

That support cut through the noise.

She wasn’t emotionally entangled in my stuff like I was.

She could simply… see. Not judge. Not analyse. Just see - what’s useful, what sparks joy, what belongs.

She brought clarity where I had entanglement.

That’s the power of good help.

Here are the 3 key lessons I've learned in my KonMari journey this year:

🌿 Lesson 1: You don’t have to do it all alone.

Support is not weakness. It's wisdom. And while that’s easier said than lived, I still wrestle with receiving help - especially when it feels one-sided.

🌿 Lesson 2: The problem wasn’t as big as my mind made it to be.

The chaos felt huge in my head - but step by step, with Jinda’s guidance, I saw it wasn’t unmanageable. It was just layers - of shame, blame, and expired childhood beliefs - that needed detangling.

🌿 Lesson 3: You don’t need perfect conditions to live your dream life.

Just clarity - and a small corner to start.

For me, that was my wellness corner - a Muji-vibe haven I’d always dreamed of. Compared to my vision board, my wellness corner wasn’t a full-room transformation. It was just a carved-out balcony nook. Above the toy shelf (which my kids had outgrown) now sat my candles, singing bowls, incense burner, and oracle cards. A little frame with grounding activities for moments of emotional overwhelm. A grounding mat facing the light.

It wasn’t Pinterest-perfect.

But it was me -perfect.

It sparked joy now, not someday.

And that’s what matters.

This leads to my biggest takeaway:

⚡ What if readiness is a choice?

What if waiting for perfection is the very thing keeping us from joy?

What if the mess, the in-between, the little wins are the sacred work of life?

That’s what KonMari taught me.

That’s what I’m still learning.

✨ The artist in me now sees my work not as a showcase of skill, but as a visual diary - a living, breathing record of becoming.

✨ The mum in me honours that a shelf can carry both toys and soul.

✨ The woman in me finally accepts: progress over perfection is not settling - it’s self-love.

💛 I’d love to hear:

Have you ever decluttered something - not just physically, but emotionally?

What corner of your life is calling for space right now?

Let me know in the comments.

And if you’re craving a reset, maybe this is your sign to start small.

Start now.

Maybe all it takes is a shelf.

Or a friend.

Or a good KonMari consultant. 😉

With you in the process,

Caihui

Cheering you home to yourself—in full colour.